How to have anal sex for the first time

Ah, the uncharted territory of anal sex – a topic often hyped up as well as frequently feared. We're with you intrepid explorers, we felt the same when we started in the beginning. Today, let's embark on a journey of discovery, armed with stats, cautionary tales, and tips from us. So, grab your compass (and maybe some lube), because we're diving deep into the world of anal sex.

Did you know that according to recent surveys, a significant percentage of adults have experimented with anal sex? It's more common than you think. While it may seem taboo, exploring anal pleasure is a perfectly natural part of human sexuality. So, rest assured, you're not alone in your curiosity.

In a study of heterosexuals aged 15 to 44, 34% of men and 30% of women had engaged in anal sex. Another survey found that on average, Americans have anal sex about 2.6 times per month, with those who identify as straight having anal sex about 1.9 times each month. 

Well, much like any adventure, readiness is key. If you find yourself curious about anal sex play and feel comfortable discussing it with your partner(s), you might just be ready to dip your toes (or other parts) into the anal waters. Remember, communication and consent are paramount!

Below are 5 tips to see if you're ready: 

1. Comfort and Communication: One of the most crucial factors in determining readiness for anal sex is feeling comfortable and being able to communicate openly with your partner(s). Make sure you're both on the same page and can discuss your desires, concerns, and boundaries without judgment.

2. Exploration and Education: Take the time to educate yourself about anal sex and explore your own body. Understanding anatomy, techniques, and potential risks can help you make informed decisions and feel more confident about trying anal play.

3. Relaxation and Trust: Anal sex requires relaxation and trust between partners. If you feel tense or anxious about the idea, it might be a sign that you're not quite ready yet. Take the time to build trust with your partner(s) and prioritize relaxation techniques to help ease any tension.

4. Preparation and Safety: Proper preparation and safety measures are essential for a positive anal sex experience. This includes using plenty of lubrication, starting with smaller insertables like fingers or small toys, and using protection to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

5. Desire and Consent: Ultimately, the decision to try anal sex should come from a place of genuine desire and consent. If you feel pressured or uncertain, it's okay to take a step back and revisit the idea at a later time. Only engage in anal play when you feel enthusiastic and fully consent to the experience.

What's an adventure without a few gadgets to make the journey so much smoother, am I right? When it comes to anal sex, there's a cornucopia of toys to choose from. From beginner-friendly butt plugs to more advanced anal beads, the options are endless. Just remember to start small and work your way up (literally).

Toys:

1. Butt Plugs: Butt plugs are designed to be inserted into the anus and left in place for extended periods during anal sex. They come in various sizes and shapes, including tapered tips for easier insertion and flared bases to prevent them from getting lost inside the body. The Oh Collective Boo vibrating butt-plug is designed with thin and long tapered shaped design as well as a remote-control for ease of control. 

2. Anal Beads: Anal beads consist of a string of beads gradually increasing in size perfect for anal sex. They are inserted into the anus one bead at a time, providing a gradual sensation of fullness and stimulation during removal.

3. Anal Vibrators: These are vibrators specifically designed for anal stimulation for a pleasurable anal sex experience. They often have a tapered shape for easier insertion and may include different vibration patterns and intensities for added pleasure. The Oh Collective Boo vibrating butt plug comes in 3 intensities and 5 vibrations with super soft material that is safe against skin.

4. Prostate Massagers: Prostate massagers are designed to target the prostate gland, located a few inches inside the anus. They typically have a curved shape to reach the prostate and may include vibration or manual stimulation features.

5. Anal Dildos: Similar to traditional dildos, anal dildos are used for penetration and stimulation during anal play. They come in various sizes, shapes, and materials to suit different preferences.

Lubricants:

1. Water-Based Lubricants: Water-based lubricants are compatible with most sex toys and condoms. They are easy to clean and generally safe for sensitive skin. You can find water-based lubricants that mimic silicone-based lubricants such as Motion Lotion, a 100% natural water-based lubricant that is not only safe to use against skin but compatible with all silicone toys.

2. Silicone-Based Lubricants: Silicone-based lubricants provide long-lasting lubrication. They are not compatible with silicone toys, as they can degrade the material over time.

3. Oil-Based Lubricants: Oil-based lubricants, such as coconut oil or mineral oil, are another option for anal play. However, they are not compatible with latex condoms and can increase the risk of condom breakage.

Now that you had the talk and prepared all your gadgets, let's get you ready for your first anal sex adventure.

1. Educate Yourself: First, take some time to research and learn more about anal sex. Understand the anatomy involved, potential risks, and proper techniques for a safe and enjoyable experience.

2. Communicate with Your Partner: Get into the details of anal sex with your partner. Discuss your desires, concerns, and boundaries regarding anal sex. Ensure that everyone involved is on the same page and consents to the experience! 

3. Start Slow: If you're new to anal play, start slow and gradually explore your comfort level. Begin with external stimulation, such as gentle massage or light touching around the anus, to help relax the muscles and build arousal.

4. Use Lubrication: Lubrication is essential for comfortable and pleasurable anal sex. Use a generous amount of water-based or silicone-based lubricant to reduce friction and ease penetration. Reapply as needed during the experience. Check out Motion Lotion, a 100% natural and water-based lubricant.

5. Choose the Right Position: This is super important! Find a comfortable position that allows for easy access to the anus and promotes relaxation. Experiment with positions such as lying on your side, kneeling on all fours, or sitting on your partner's lap to find what works best for you.

6. Warm Up: Engage in plenty of foreplay and arousal-building activities before attempting penetration. Kiss, touch, and stimulate erogenous zones to help relax the body and enhance arousal.

7. Use Condoms: If you're engaging in anal sex with a partner, use condoms to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and prevent the spread of bacteria. Use a new condom if switching between vaginal and anal penetration.

8. Communicate During: Throughout the experience, communicate openly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't. Don't hesitate to speak up if you experience discomfort or pain, and take breaks as needed.

9. Aftercare: After anal sex, engage in gentle aftercare practices to promote comfort and relaxation. Clean yourself and your partner(s) thoroughly, cuddle, and engage in soothing activities to help wind down and reconnect emotionally.

10. Clean your toys: Remember to also clean your toys thoroughly using The Oh Collective Toy Cleaner, Squeaks Clean with anti-bacterial properties to keep the toys fresh!